Tillie has a religious and spiritual practice and the way she talks about it all is so approachable and not judgmental. She acknowledges that it’s not for everybody. If you are reading this and thinking Kim? Spiritual practices? what? Just listen. Tillie is an A+ human and she says bucket loads of smart things. Promise. She is full of truth and power and strikes the perfect balance between bold and serenity.
We talk about:
- learning to cope with life besides escaping through food.
- messages we get as girls to be quiet, smart and small
- putting on a brave space when it can feel like you are falling apart
understanding that your worth is a given
- Spiritual journeys
- Feelings not being right vs. wrong. They are just feelings.
- Getting cat calls at 11years old and the discomfort of puberty (+ would would have helped!)
- wanting to hide but wanting to be seen at the same time.
- not being given the same access as someone in a female identified body as a male identified body.
- not hustling for acceptance
- worthiness and that we don’t need to change to receive love.
Do Over Diaries is about trying again, pivots, and doing hard things together.
Doing things differently is hard. Going right when everyone goes left is lonely. Many of us spend years talking what we want to do and who we want to be and time passes. We blame ourselves. We blame our bodies. We blame what we eat, how we move, what we say, what we do.
We keep ourselves small and try to control everything so we do not mess up. We share the inspirational quote on social media about what one woman did in her 60s and that it is never too late. We say other people can start over and try again, other people can pivot, other people know what they are doing and have it all figured it out.
Why not you? You can 180, 360 or 10 degrees change your life, your 5 year plan or just your evening plans. Maybe the changes are big - moving, career, divorce and marriage. Maybe it is learning to say yes to dessert when you want it, a 10 min walk or cancelling plans with a friend. Life happens one day at a time and change with one small decision at a time.
You can do hard things, you can make a different decision, you can start over every day. Sometimes it is sad, hard and uncomfortable. Other times it is exciting, fun and liberating. We can figure it out together.
Let’s talk about it. Let’s be honest. Let’s try it all again and start over as many times as we need wherever and whenever we need.